When my was son was in Elementary School, he would talk about sharks, legos, trains and cars to anyone who would listen. He knew anything and everything about those subjects. The children in his class would listen for a little while about his knowledgeable facts, but would get bored quickly and walk away. Most of the children didn’t have interest in 7 different kinds of sharks! My daughter on the other hand was a bossy ring-leader, she spoke her mind whether it hurt someone’s feelings or not (of course she did not realize this at that time). She is very smart and expects everyone to be on the same page as her. Teachers would contact me about what went on during school and so forth. It was then I decided that I needed to step up and be a team-leader for my son and daughter and get their social skills in check. Role playing, joining clubs and communicating with your child’s teacher, etc… Will help your child improve their social skills.
Practice, practice, practice. Role playing with your child is a great way to help your children interact appropriately with their peers and will also give them confidence. Don’t be afraid to teach your child how to go up to someone and start a conversation with them. Keep on reminding them on what to say and do, etc…
Signing up your children to clubs and activities that accentuate their interests will also help them make new friends. The library, school and boy/girl scouts are a great starting points. There are plenty of free programs available out there.
Another way to help is to chat with your child’s teacher. Explain to the teacher your concerns and ask if he/she can figure out who would be a good match for your child. Perhaps the pair could sit next to each other and find out on their own what they have in common.
Lastly, join a professionally run social skills program. I highly recommend this as a parent/child group, so the kids can learn about social skills and you can learn how to help your child at the same time. It’s amazing what a 4 – 6 week class can do for your family.
It may seem like your child is friendless forever and then all of a sudden you are having kids come over who knows more about sharks than your son does!!!